In one of my last blogs, I wrote about the obstacles you will encounter when living your purpose. This week I want to give you six skills to help you live your purpose. Before we examine the skills, let’s start by defining what purpose means. First, I believe there are two ways to think about purpose. One is our inherent purpose and the other is the purpose we choose.

Think of it this way, what if your inherent purpose was just to exist? I believe that your life is your purpose and that being alive is enough. You are already enough and completely complete. You don’t have to be better or save the planet. Your purpose is to be human. And that purpose has already been fulfilled. You don’t have to find a way to matter because you already matter.

Once you accept your inherent purpose, then you can ask yourself what will I do to make my experience while I am here more fun and fulfilling? Here is the mind-blowing part of this - you get to choose what you want to do with your life simply because you want to. You get to pick your reason. Once you realize that there is nothing you have to do your entire life can be what you want to do - you can choose a purpose that matters to you.

Part of fulfilling your chosen purpose can be broken into six skills. The good news is you can learn these skills.

They are:

  1. Thought Management. Thought management means learning how to become aware of what you think and how that impacts your life. This means making our unconscious thinking more conscious. Another part of thought management is learning how to think new thoughts more intentionally.
  2. Feeling Management. Feeling management means accepting our feelings instead of resisting them. When we resist emotion we block forward momentum and progress. Another important component of feeling management is accepting that we are not supposed to be happy all of the time. We can embrace all emotions and understand this is part of the human experience instead of judging or trying to change it.
  3. Massive Action. Massive action means you take action until you get the result you want. This requires both thought and feeling management so that you can continue to take action even when it is not producing the result or outcome you want. I think of it this way - take action, fail, tweak the plan - take action, fail, tweak the plan - take action and then succeed. Essentially taking action, failing and tweaking until we get the result we want.
  4. Decision Making. Decision making means making a choice with the data at hand. Often people are so afraid of making the wrong decision they fail ahead of time by not even trying. Wouldn’t you rather make a decision and try versus failing from inaction?
  5. Constraint. These days our choices are limitless. This is wonderful and overwhelming at the same time. Indulging in overwhelm limits our ability to act. This is why it is important to narrow our options and be willing to make a mistake.
  6. Unconditional Love. Unconditional love means that you, and everyone around you, is already complete, perfect, good enough and 100% lovable. This allows you to create from a place of abundance and love.

I encourage you to take a few minutes to examine each of these skills and decide on one skill you want to work on for the next month. Each day take time to pick one action that will help you refine your skill.

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